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欧美职业妈妈如何平衡家庭与工作

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欧美职业妈妈如何平衡家庭与工作

相信不少妈妈们都有过平衡职场和家庭的困扰。一方面希望把更多的精力投入到孩子的成长过程当中,另一方面,也希望能追求自己的事业,或者是在财务上独立自主。然而职场妈妈当起来并不容易,今天就来看看欧美的职场妈妈们的那些碎碎念。


一、重回职场如何安排好第一步?

我一直到宝宝八个月的时候才重新开始我的在家经营小生意,并且我只接小单。这样我就既能保持和生意伙伴的联络,也能赚点小钱。”

"I didn't resume my at-home business until my baby was 8 months old, and then only to take on small projects. This way I stay in touch with my contacts and keep some income coming in."


我选择的工作方式是和另外一个同事轮班。我同事上周一到周三的班,我上周三到周五的班。(呃,等一下,那周三到底要怎么分啊?)这样我在家时就专心当妈,工作时就专心工作。

"I take part in a job share where a co-worker works Monday through Wednesday and I work Wednesday through Friday.That helps me focus on family when I'm at home, and on work when I'm at work."


为了早点下班回家,我把每天的午休从一个小时压到半个小时。这样我就能在老公和儿子回家前开始准备晚饭。

"To get home from work earlier, I takea half-hour lunch instead of an hour. This way I can get started on dinnerbefore my husband and son get home."


我提早下班回家,这样我就能在宝宝睡觉前和她呆一会儿。之后我再重新开工。虽然这不算完美,但是总比回家之后宝宝都睡了强。

"I leave work early so I can spend some time with my baby before she goes to sleep. Then I put in another couple of hours at my computer at home. It's not ideal, but it's better than arriving home after the nanny has put her to bed."


当你和老板谈判的时候要守住自己的底线。家庭是第一位的,当我休完产假回去上班的时候,我把自己的要求提得很清楚:不上夜班,缩短工时,要有时间让我催乳。

(这事儿看老板啊!要是碰到一个小气的,会不会就此一拍两散了呢?)

"Be firm in your needs when negotiating with your employer. My family comes first, and when I returned to work after both my maternity leaves, I was very clearabout my needs: no evenings, shorter work hours, and breaks for pumping."


准备好调整你对工作目标的态度。不去拼命赶业绩也是可以理解的。

"Be prepared to change your mind about your work goals. It is OK to not want to chase that next promotion right away."


总的来说,这些留言的宝妈们都主张家庭优先于工作,为了宝宝都做出了好多牺牲!不知道国内的宝妈们怎么看呢?


二、 娃该如何安顿?

不同于国内的妈妈们,欧美妈妈们一般都是独立带娃,很少会有祖父母全职帮带娃的情况。让我们来看看她们是怎么说的。


我们的保姆来我们家带孩子,一切都很顺利。我们女儿可以在自己床上睡觉并且保持她的日程作息习惯。宝宝去睡觉的时候,我们的保姆也做些简单的家务。我回家就能看到一个干净的房子和开心的宝宝!现在我再也不用在周末洗衣服和刷厕所!

"Our babysitter comes to our home, which works out great. Our daughter naps in her own bed and sticks to her daily routine. During naptime, the sitter does light cleaning or laundry. I come home to a clean house and a happy baby. Now I don't spend my weekends doing laundry or scrubbing toilets!"


老公和我都在不同的时间做兼职,所以我们不用请保姆。我们一起在职场打拼,每周粑粑或者麻麻中的一个去上班,另一个就在家陪宝宝。

"My husband and I both work part-time on different days so that we don't need childcare. We both keep our careers going, each parent gets out of the house each week, and the kids get alone time with each parent."


三、家务活儿怎么分?


用童工啊!啊,不对,是用爱(wēi)(bī)(lì)(yòu)让孩子们帮忙做点家务。我告诉他们,如果他们帮忙,我们就有更多时间一起玩。此外,我也充分利用零碎时间跑个邮局,交个话费啥的,这样周末就不用忙这些啦。

"I've gotten my school-age kids involved in helping around the house. I tell them that if we all chip in, we'll have more time to play together. I also try to run errands at lunchtime or after work on the way home, so I don't spend my weekend running around."


我一般每天早上列两张to-do-list。第一张是胸有成竹肯定拿下系列,各个击破这些事情之后老有成就感了。第二张是我就想想没做完也不要紧系列,就算你最后怂了没有完成全部目标,有那么一两件做完的还是会让你感觉小有成就的。

"I make two to-do lists in the morning. The first contains goals I know I can get done — taking care of these gives me a feeling of accomplishment. The second list is 'things I would like to do but it's not a big deal if they don't get done today.' Even crossing one or two of those items off helps me feel like I'm moving forward in life."


我觉得吧,前一天晚上准备好一切:尿布包 t;公文包 t;午餐便当 t;吸奶器 t。。。每天睡觉前收拾收拾然后把早餐也准备好。

(喂,这个听起来好像我妈啊!我小时候她也是这么教我的!)

"My advice is do everything you can the night before — pack the diaper bag, your work bag, lunch, breast pump, and load the car. Spend a few minutes before bed picking up the mess and doing the dishes, and set out everything you need for breakfast."


你想尽享全家共进晚餐的天伦之乐吗?

慢炖锅!你值得拥有!



不然我们家就得天天晚上吃外卖了。

"If you have any hope whatsoever of having dinner together as a family, I have two words for you: slow cooker.Without it, we'd eat takeout every night."



四、如何忙里偷闲享受自我时光?

虽然有了孩子,但是很多欧美的宝妈们都不想沦为整天围着孩子转的黄脸婆。保持自己的生活爱好,保存自己的本心也是很重要呢。不然有一天孩子长大离开家了,你就会发现生活突然失去了重点。


我每天早上起大早晨跑。这样我就能在上班前,乃至全家醒来前做自己的运动。这是我的专属时间,并且运动能够缓解工作压力。

"I run in the early morning so I get my exercise in before work and before the rest of the family wakes up. It's the'me' time I need, and exercise also helps me manage work stress."


我午休的时候跑到自己车上小睡,简直包治百病。

(这个为啥听起来好心酸。。。)

"I use part of my lunch break to take a nap in my car. It's key to my energy level and sanity!"


老公和我通过为我们的爱好预留固定时间的方式保持我们的兴趣爱好。每隔一段时间我们就回顾一下我们的自我时间,夫妻时刻,家庭时光是否均衡。如果有不足的地方,我们就想办法弥补解决。

(简直模范夫妻啊有木有!)

"Both my husband and I kept our interests alive by scheduling regular times for our hobbies. Every once in awhile, we review our schedules and decide if there's enough alone time, enough couple time, and enough family time, and figure out ways to increase whatever is lacking."


找个帮带小孩的健身房(所以海底捞是不是可以考虑再开个健身房?),这样你就能安安静静地洗个运动后的热水澡,同时练好身材变得更加自信。

"Finding a workout club with daycare gives you some 'you' time. Plus, you can take a shower in peace and build your muscles as well as your self-esteem."


最后,淡定,淡定,淡定!


保持淡定的关键就是放轻松。听起来有点像废话,但是车到山前必有路,也许不是我要的那条路,但是总归有条路。为了鸡毛蒜皮的小事焦头烂额完全是浪费时间和精力。

"The biggest trick for keeping it all together is to relax, which sounds counterintuitive. Everything always works out — maybe not the way I want it to, but it always does. Stressing out over little things is never productive."


有些事儿吧,有时候该推到一边就推到一边。有的时候呢,老娘就不甩那些工作上的烦心事儿,然后去做个按摩美甲,让自己美美的。有的时候呢,熊孩子们得自个儿玩或者看电视,因为老娘要工作没空啊!因为认同这样的理念,我这个妈是越当越棒了!

"Something is going to have to slide at one time or another. Some days work slides so I can take care of myself (get a massage or pedicure). Some days the kids end up playing without me or watching TV becauseI need to do something for work. I'm a much better parent because I have accepted this!"


曾几何时,我幻想自己是那种“上得厅堂下得厨房,搞得定老公,治得住熊娃”的超级宝妈。我了个亲娘的,我还是too young too simple。我现在算是醒悟了,老娘我该休息时就休息,该放手时就放手。就算地上洒满玩具,水槽堆着碗碟,那!又!怎!样!

"I thought I could 'bring home the bacon, fry it upin a pan, and never let him forget he's a man,' and be a great mom. Boy, did I ever getthat wrong! I've learned to relax and stop trying to do everything. It's OK ifthere are toys on the floor and dishes in the sink."


看了这么多欧美宝妈们的碎碎念,不知道国内的妈妈们有什么想法?


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